At the beginning of a conversation with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time, you usually hear a question that goes something like: how are you doing? You don’t wonder about the answer, automatically replying that you’re well, good, or that you’ve been better. You don’t really think further about how your life is going. Now it’s time to ask yourself this seemingly unimportant question: how am I really feeling? What can I do to make myself better?
Better life begins not around you, but inside you. It's about having values such as knowledge of self-acceptance, self-respect and authenticity to the environment. Your dream is a warm house, happy family, a successful career? If you do not accept your own self, you cannot give to others what you expect from them - their love, respect and approval.
Awareness of the importance of your own happiness is almost as important as a positive attitude to life. Cases of healthy selfishness, when we are fighting for our own pleasure (within certain limits, of course) are not a sign of rudeness of from your side. This is proof of respect for yourself, including the right to express your opinion, even if it is contrary to the beliefs of the others.
Constantly returning to the memories from the time you were living better or imagining a better life is only a substitute. To really start living a better life, you should actively work on self-development. If you’re waiting for other people to change your life, you may wait forever. That is why you should start motivating yourself today, to change your life gradually, in small steps, which will allow you to achieve the goals worth pursuing.
It’s very difficult to find the right recipe for a happy life, mainly because for each of us it means something different. Some people opt for a career, success in the professional field, and others dreams of a stable relationship and successful married life. However, there are some pillars on which you can begin to build now and realize that the way to a better life requires a commitment from yourself. Think of it as a unique theatre play, where you play the main role, and it’s up to you how the play will turn out in the end.
People who adhere to the principles according to which ‘what is to be, will be’ are deeply mistaken. We are the shapers of our own destiny - and although it sounds like a hackneyed slogan, it has a real message. If, until now, you thought that the care of our own needs interferes with being polite to others, please change your attitude and become more assertive. Express your opinions out loud, do not be afraid to say what you really think, and you will gain respect in your own eyes of and of other people.
Scientists have proven one of the major inconsistencies in the proceedings of a man – namely, the worrying. Now, usually when we know that we are in a stressful situation, cortisol levels in the blood increases significantly, which prevents us from stopping to care about what will happen to us in the future. Somehow we manage, and then it turns out that it wasn’t so bad. However, do you feel relieved? No, because in most cases we find a new thing to worry about. Brief advice to start a better life: get away from that scheme.
Failures happen to everyone, but not everyone knows what to do in critical situations. If, during harmful changes in your life, you break down or obsessively start thinking about the past, it is time to realize that the crisis is one of the elements of growing up. The adult crisis, midlife crisis - each of them is an expression of a certain climax in human life. Adapting to new conditions and overcoming crises are some of the best characteristics.